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Can vibrators cause you physical pain?

Can vibrators cause you physical pain?

It's no secret the popularity of sex toys, vibrators and more have increased in the last few years. Maybe we're biased, but it's true. 

Whenever someone is exploring these products and devices for the first time, there's a common hesitation – one that is often around pain or becoming too dependant on them. Let's address the former first.

Recognising potential causes of pain.
While vibrators are designed to enhance pleasure, there are factors that can lead to discomfort or pain during their use, such as.

Potential incorrect use.
Using a vibrator improperly or with excessive force can cause pain. According to Dr. Debby Herbenick, a sex researcher and author of Sex Made Easy, it's crucial to start with a low setting and gradually increase the intensity as your body acclimates. Abrupt or aggressive use can lead to discomfort, particularly in sensitive areas.

Not enough lube.
Decent lubrication is vital for comfortable vibrator use. Not having enough lubrication can cause friction, leading to irritation or pain. Dr. Emily Morse, a sexologist and host of the Sex with Emily podcast, recommends using a good-quality water-based lubricant to reduce friction and enhance comfort.

Sensitivity or potential conditions.
Some womxn may have heightened sensitivity or underlying medical conditions that make vibrator use painful. Conditions such as vulvodynia, vaginismus, or infections can cause discomfort. If you're experiencing ongoing discomfort, it's advisable to consult a healthcare provider to rule out any medical issues.

What's the size and shape of the vibrator?
The size and shape of the vibrator can also impact comfort. Using a vibrator that is too large or has an uncomfortable design for your anatomy can cause pain. It's important to choose a device that feels right for your body and meets your comfort needs. A gentle suggestion would be Bend, which can be shaped to fit your own anatomy.

Note: any reference to women/AFAB/womxn is for brevity.


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